It seems like when kids hit their teen years , the problems get so much bigger. Emotions come rushing in. We don't feel like we fit anywhere, and we feel alone. Or health issues set in, and we feel like we're the only one who is battling chronic illness or allergies or both. Or we feel defeated in our walk with the Lord, and like we're the only one who's struggling.
If you feel alone, you're not alone. I believe that every teen has felt these emotions, been hurt by loneliness, and struggled with feeling different or condemned. If you are struggling right now, I hope these three things encourage you:
1. Emotions are insecure
While this may sound a little cliché, it is so true. Our emotions are fickle. We teens have (...um...dramatic) mood swings, from laughing hysterically to sobbing hysterically. We feel fear, joy, and sadness at the same time as we prepare to graduate. We feel upset, embarrassed, and amused in awkward situations. And sometimes we can't even tell what we are feeling.
Our emotions are so unstable. They change all the time, on the spur of the moment. And sometimes they can take over. We feel alone in a crowd.
But I love what C.S. Lewis says -
Regardless of whether we have a hundred friends or none, God's love for us will never change, never fail. His love is strong, secure. Even when our emotions make us feel alone, insecure, or out of touch with God, we can rest in the fact that we don't need to rely on our emotions, but on the Rock that will never shake.
2. You're loved
When we teens feel alone, we often lose sight of the people who truly love us! We focus on the hard situations, the trials around us, and we forget the truth.
I know we've seen it and heard it all over the place: "You're Loved!" "Jesus Loves You", but sometimes in America we can see it so much that we gloss over it. We miss the special-ness of this gift!
If someone risked their life to save you, would you feel loved?
Definitely! And each one of us who is a follower of Christ has experienced this opportunity, but in an even deeper way! Jesus gave His life for us! He died a cruel death, He took our sins upon Him, and He gave His all to show us His love.
"But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." - Romans 5:8
When we feel alone, we need to remember that we are loved immeasurably. If we accept Him into our life, He is always with us! We are never truly alone.
3. You're Not Alone.
When you're feeling hurt and lonely, you're not alone. So many have been alone, and God used them in powerful ways.
Think of Daniel - His co-workers/employees were jealous, and set him up. They asked that the king make an edict that everyone had to pray to him, or get thrown in the lion's den. But Daniel prayed to God... Alone. (Maybe his friends were outside the edict.)
Or what about Joseph? Thrown into a pit by his brothers, his coat taken away and left to die... Until they decided to be merciful (not) and sell him into slavery. Here he was, a young teen probably, and sold to a foreign land. Alone.
Or look at Jesus. In the garden of Gethsemane, He asked His disciples to wait for Him while He went to pray; and they fell asleep. Twice in fact! And then everyone fled (after the incident with Peter.) And Peter even denied Jesus, said he didn't know Him! He was alone.
And yet, these people had such an impact. The king made a new law, and Daniel was a powerful witness. Joseph saved two nations from starvation - Egypt and Israel. And Jesus made a way for us to be forgiven.
If you are feeling alone, remember these three things:
1. God is with you
2. God can use these situations for good, even if we don't understand right now
3. We're in this together.
So many teens feel this way - I wish we could meet some of them!
Here's a challenge - Let's try to connect with someone we don't know this week - maybe it's at church, summer camp, or any activity really. (I'll be in this challenge too!)
Let me know how it goes! Feel free to comment below and share the challenge! :)
Hi! My name is Hannah, and I enjoy playing piano, writing, hanging out with my family, and spending time with my Lord and Savior. Hope you are blessed!